Turn Intentions into Outcomes

Many kids start the school year with the best of intentions, only to quickly degenerate into problems.  For example there may be a high schooler with 50 missing homework assignments from the last year, who sets a goal to have no missing homework assignments this year.  However, he misses one.  Then, he gets extremely frustrated and thinks, I may as well give up! I'm doomed to failure.

In this case, one of the issues was setting a wrong goal. No missing homework assignments was shooting too high. Maybe the goal should have been 30% fewer homework assignments this quarter.

He also needed an achievable plan--what would he do to achieve fewer missing assignments?  His plan was: check the school's website to figure out what assignments are due when.

Another issue was not thinking ahead of time as to what he would do if he did miss an assignment.   Given his past history, that had a good chance of happening. So, he missed an assignment and immediately had negative emotions that made it hard for him to regroup. If he could have avoided this "crumble," then he could react in a practical way:  "I forgot to check the program. So next time I'll set an alarm..."

 

Don't let this be you!

Don't let this be you!

Don't wind up like the mouse!

If you give a mouse a cookie, the book says, he goes to findmilk, spills the milk, finds something to clean it with, and in the process of that gets further and further away from getting what he really wanted, which was simply a cookie.  And, at the end, he has nothing to show for all his time but mess--and exhaustion.  Managing distractions is not just for the mouse--it is for all of us, but easier said than done in this era of multiple distractions!  ADHDers expend a lot of energy -- but without managing the distractions, they don't have a lot to show for it--and wind up feeling unproductive and frustrated. 

 

 

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And the Winner is... US!

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Garden City Park, New York: Square One is proud to announce that it has won another Benjamin Franklin Award from the Independent Book Publishers Association (IBPA) announced at their annual awards ceremony during their Publishing University event (held this year in Portland, Oregon).

ADHD & The Focused Mind (Square One, $17.95 USD) is the book that brought home the gold for Square One in the “Best Parenting & Family Issues” category; no coincidence, given the book’s central emphasis on the same focus and self-discipline that Olympic medal-winning legend Michael Phelps was taught by his mother, Deborah, when he was diagnosed with ADHD as a young boy. Twenty-two Olympic medals and thirty-nine broken world records in swimming later, it seems safe to say that Phelps’ life and incredible level of achievement to date has been served wonderfully well by this important and child-specific approach.

Written by husband-and-wife MDs (Sarah Cheyette, MD and Ben Cheyette, MD, PhD) who joined forces with martial arts master instructor Peter Johnson, ADHD & The Focused Mind is designed specifically to help explain for readers the core basics of ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), including its common signs and what researchers have discovered about it. The book’s remaining chapters detail the components of the authors’ own program for dealing with ADHD, including its principles, its goals, and the practical ways in which these goals can be achieved. The authors recognize that all children are different, so the program has the flexibility to work within a child’s own particular comfort level while still attaining the necessary level of focus. The book then concludes with a discussion of medications for ADHD, and how to decide what’s right for your child.

To date, ADHD & the Focused Mind has received critical praise from Publishers Weekly (“[A] fresh and practical approach . . . [p]arents and kids will plenty of useful ideas in this innovative, ‘athletic mindset’ approach to tackling ADHD”) and Library Journal (“Filled with resources and further reading to assist parents, teachers, and coaches, this manual will aid those with ADHD to learn to hone their attention skills in ways that will be familiar to those who enjoy and participate in sports”).

Summer may now be in full swing, but the next new school year will be here before we know it. Feel free to order a copy of this award-winning book today wherever books are sold.

Focus Guaranteed

We were asked on a radio show about supplements and pills. However, no one supplement and no one pill is guaranteed to help ADHD.  There IS, though, one thing that is DEFINITELY guaranteed to help with focus.  It's a champion's winning attitude. This is what we try to give you in our book!  Any time you have the "YES I CAN" attitude, that ALWAYS helps you focus on the task at hand.

Check out the video here:

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Competition--use it to make yourself better

Now that the Olympics are in full swing, it's a great example of people pushing to be their best.  Records are broken at the Olympics as the best in the world push each other to higher heights.  Our book is the only ADHD book that talks about using the value of competition to better yourself. We all compete against others--and against our own best self--and that can be a positive force. Competition for the wrong reasons doesn't work well, but competition that pushes you to be better can be powerful. Just because you win doesn't mean other people have to lose.  The rising tide of competition can lift all boats.  Learn how!

 

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What a race!!

What a race!!

Action, not Reaction

ADHD can be a journey to self respect and accomplishment. If not, it's about self doubt. If you can develop a center of yourself where you have confidence in your abilities, you can step up to the bat, go for the bucket, knock in the goal, or throw the punch. Without that center, you react to whatever comes your way with anxiety. On the ropes, you are hoping no one hits you. Then many will turn to anything that takes that feeling away. Exercise is a great way to build a feeling of accomplishment and the power that comes with that. Put the gloves ON!